有兩句說話我好憎

Willis WAN, Chun Yu | 2021-07-09

TL;DR 我唔信「資質」。

我唔係一個鐘意傾計嘅人。但係喺科大嘅時候因為種種原因(Because Reasonssss)識咗幾個Professors,傾到下計。但正正係同Professors 傾計,令到我聽到兩句我好憎嘅說話。呢兩句說話我一直記住,to remind myself whom I don’t want to be。

有一次係考完Final 嘅時候,個 Professor 派咗其中一份 Group Assignment 嘅成績。我唔係好同意佢俾我哋 Group 嘅一部分評價,所以我走咗去問佢點解咁俾分。佢咁樣覆我:

“Don’t worry, you are the top of the class at the moment.” - (1)

(Those who don’t know me well enough will think I’m showing off; I’m not, and you have to take my words for it. I won’t show off in such a subtle way xD)

第二次係同第二個Professor傾計個陣,半講笑咁話點解BBA(IS)啲嘢咁淺。佢對我講:

“It’s because you, Willis, is special. You’re smart.” - (2)

No. Hell no. I’m not smart. (And again I’m not showing off in such a subtle way. You’re missing the point.)

The point is,佢哋兩個都暗示咗我嘅天資令到我有咁嘅成就/咁嘅諗法。由於我嘅資質,我先會有咁嘅成就。既然我有咁嘅資質,You shouldn’t worry about being better。

Just take a second to think how detrimental this thought will be.

如果我哋所有人天生都受某種「資質」所限制住,我哋為 DSE 、為自己所作嘅所有努力仲有無意義? 我哋點解仲要去接受挑戰?既然我被資質限制住,咁我做咩要改變自己?我根本改變唔到自己。

係《Mindset: The New Psychology of Success》入面,Dr. Dweck 稱呢種諗法做「Fixed Mindset」。佢研究一班大學生之後發現,就算佢哋入學考試成績幾高到好,擁有 Fixed Mindset 嘅學生會因為面對大學嘅困難而好快「放飛自我」,結果成績一落千丈。

而且,我哋好容易就跌落去 Fixed Mindset 嘅思維模式。 例如,每次考完試,成績唔理想嘅話,我哋好快會歸咎係一啲我哋改變唔到嘅因素上:「肯定係我前一晚唔夠瞓」、「個老師教得咁差」、「我不嬲都係某某科無乜天分」。(I am also a victim of the last thought; that’s why my English is much better than my Chinese.)

同 Fixed Mindset 相對嘅思維模式,Dr. Dweck 稱之為「Growth Mindset」。擁有 Growth Mindset 嘅人會認為,我哋係可以培養出唔同嘅特質。當我哋識得改變自己嘅諗法,我哋就唔需要收埋自己嘅弱點,而係諗方法改變、進步。擁有 Growth Mindset 唔會覺得自己做到下一個愛因斯坦或者貝多芬,但係佢哋會覺得自己潛質係未知(且不可知)嘅。正正因為覺得自己嘅潛質係未知嘅,Growth Mindset 嘅人會更加有動力去學習,而唔係想得到人哋嘅認同。

呢一點勁在,佢只係一種諗法,亦即係話我哋唔洗額外做任何嘢。但係難就難在,呢個只係一種諗法,亦即係話我哋思考嘅時候要 Aware 自己係咪用緊 Growth Mindset。

但係只要我哋習慣咗 Growth Mindset,我哋所做嘅任何事都會引導我哋成為更好嘅人。共勉之。

世界上哪有甚麼天才,我只是把別人喝咖啡的時間用在工作上了。——魯迅

下次講下我哋可以點樣 Apply Growth Mindset 落去學習之上😃 (主要係因為我未讀到去個一章 xD)

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